Handling my Life
I haven't blogged in a while and partially, that is my fault. I just haven't been inspired to write. I had a very slow winter, I went to Cuba and that's pretty much it. Then March hit and it was like "All systems go". I had to have surgery and I don't owe you that story, but then I also jumped into year-end at work, and before I knew it, I was starting school again. That's right, I went back to school. So my life went from boring weeknights to actually using my brain for critical thought and then the other night I thought "How am I supposed to do this, how do I manage everything! I sucked at it in university", well readers, I don't know, but I can tell you that my day-to-day has changed a lot and I don't hate it. With these changes since university, I've noticed how well rounded I am and how much more relaxed I am.
My maturity has also changed a lot and I've learnt about time management. I'm not saying I have it all figured out, but I do know that I like how I am living my life and I wanted to share some changes I've incorporated to my life to make day-to-day living easier on myself as a single person with no children.
1) I've re-discovered the joys of being an introvert.
When I was a kid, I really never asked for friends to come over during the summer. I would do my own thing, go to summer camps, read, and swim in our pool. I didn't need constant connection with friends. I mean spending ten months with people was enough, I needed two months to re-charge my batteries.
I've now as an adult re-discovered that I need downtime, I need quiet time, I need to say no to hanging out with people to stay calm and happy. I plan like one outing a week and it's my time to see friends or do something fun. I don't feel the need to do more. It's not that I don't love the friends in my life, but as I've gotten older, I've filtered my friends who understand me and accept me. So they get it and they let me live.
2) I don't do anything I don't want to do
I mean this kind of fits with me being an introvert, but I have allowed myself to say no. I cannot possibly do it all, so why would I try. I don't get an award at the end of the week for a job well done on getting everything done, so why stress myself? I prioritize and then I work from there.
Some of my priorities include (not in any particular order): finishing school work, doing the dishes, seeing my family, going to work and doing my best, being kind to people and the planet, seeing movies, exercising, going to yoga, sleeping, seeing friends once a month, not being hungover.
3) I don't work hard and play hard
I'm not sure who introduced me to that mentality in university, but you suck. I just want to work hard and rest hard. We don't rest enough as a society, I like sleeping, so getting to bed at 10pm is uber important for me. I don't want to be hungover, first of all it sucks all my energy, I feel awful, and I look like crap. It takes me a solid two days to get back to where I was.
4) I now have a handle on my finances
I had to get my shit together. So I did. I cannot shop every weekend like I used too. How has not shopping excessively helped? Well, now I can save, I have more time, and when I do shop, it is way more satisfying. I'm also not stressed over money, which I was trying to get over the stress of other things by shopping. It's an awful cycle.
5) I eat well and try an exercise as much as I can
It took me a solid year to learn how to eat. I went from eating bags of chocolate, to regimented meal prep, to regular meal prep, to eating what feeds my soul. I crave veggies and desserts. I'm the kind of person who eats smaller meals so I can get more throughout the day. So obviously I know I can't eat desserts every day, but I stopped hating myself if I had dessert. I've lately just wanted to make sure I am nourished, but also not forcing meal prep to an extreme. Roasting veggies, unpasteurized no sugar added fruit juices, soups, salads, simple foods with little preservatives, no meat. It makes my brain feel great! Also I freeze what I don't use and it often just ends up in soups.
Exercise and yoga have been a battle and will always be a battle, but I need to make sure I go. I pay for a personal trainer once a week because I know at least once a week I have someone there to support me. I pay for a yoga membership right down the road from work so that I can go at lunch or after work. This is the first thing to go when I get busy, which I try every day to make sure I move my body a little.
Thanks for reading,